A recent interview between Mide Oni and WendyTalks has sparked conversation online after Wendy opened up about her relationship with her hair and the unconventional routine that first pushed her into virality.

Wendy initially went viral for revealing that she washes her 4C hair using Fairy dishwashing liquid and antibacterial hand soap. But in conversation with Mide, it became clear the routine was not just about convenience or experimentation. Wendy does not hesitate to express her dislike for her hair, and that sentiment runs deeper than the surface.

“I don’t love myself or my hair,” she admitted plainly, sharing that she often dreams of having long hair.

She explained that using dishwashing liquid reflects how little care she feels towards her hair, describing it as something she does not know how to manage or connect with.

Tracing it back, Wendy pointed to her school years. She recalled enduring six to seven hour braiding appointments that felt painful and exhausting, especially when compared to girls with looser hair textures who could wear simpler styles such as buns or ponytails. That contrast stayed with her, shaping how she viewed her own hair. She added that many other women with thicker, coarser textures share similar experiences, where early discomfort and comparison snowball into long term detachment.

When asked by Mide whether putting more effort into her hair could change her feelings towards it, Wendy paused before responding, “probably.” It is a moment that lingered with viewers, suggesting that even she recognises the possibility of a different relationship but has not quite reached it yet.

Some of her comments, however, have drawn sharper reactions. Wendy said she prefers dating outside her race to avoid having children with the same hair texture, and even stated she would cut her child’s hair if it were 4C, describing it as “tiresome and challenging” to maintain. While she affirmed she is not depressed, saying, “I just don’t know what to do with my hair,” the statements have left many unsettled.

Online, reactions have been mixed. Some questioned why she would use washing-up liquid while also expressing frustration at her hair being “short” and “brittle,” pointing out the contradiction. Others dismissed the entire conversation as ragebait. However, beyond the shock value, the discussion has reopened a more familiar conversation around natural hair and texture bias.

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The situation goes beyond one person’s routine. It reflects wider attitudes towards type 4 hair often being labelled as “difficult” or undesirable, alongside gaps in education on how to care for it and limited representation growing up.

Type 4 hair refers to tightly coiled natural hair textures that are often more prone to dryness and require specialised care routines. Within natural hair communities, there has been ongoing discussion about the importance of proper education, representation, and access to suitable hair products, particularly for young people navigating their hair journey.