A TikTok creator named Shatoya has sparked a debate around the way women interact with one another after sharing her disappointment with what she described as the attitudes of some Black women she encountered during a night out in London.

In a video shared on TikTok, Shatoya explained that her experience had left her questioning why some women appeared to be hostile towards others, particularly when there was no obvious reason for the behaviour. She began by saying:

"Do you know what, yeah? I went out last night and all I'm gonna say is I'm mad disappointed in black girls in the UK, in London even, because tell me why everyone was just screwing."

Shatoya explained that she considers herself to be someone who actively supports other women, saying she would naturally compliment another woman if she liked her appearance or outfit. She said:

"I'm a girl's girl."

Giving an example of how she believes women should treat one another, she described helping another woman she did not know while they were in a toilet. She explained:

"I was in the toilet helping a girl I didn't even know wet her hair so she can get her water waves."

Shatoya said this was representative of how she believes women should interact, adding that she would have no problem approaching another Black woman to offer a compliment or encouragement.

"If I see another black girl I'm telling a black girl, you're right, smiling, you look good today, you look nice, I like your outfit," she said.

However, she claimed she did not feel that same energy was being returned during her night out, saying she repeatedly noticed women looking at her in a way she interpreted as unfriendly. She continued:

"But you see the black girls in London, they do nothing but screw. Like, I don't even know why girls step out just to screw another group of girls."

Her frustration eventually led her to make a broader call for women to change the way they treat one another.

"I'm tired of it. Like, black girls need to do better," she said, before adding: "I said this in my last video and I'm gonna say it again, black girls need to do fucking better. It's disgusting."

The comments section quickly became divided, with some viewers agreeing with Shatoya's observations while others argued that her experience could not be applied to Black women in London as a whole.

One person suggested the behaviour could be linked to the capital itself, writing:

"Lowkey (highkey) it's a London thing, talk to a northerner, or anyone from Peterborough up, they'll tell you we're all a miserable lot that's always in a rush to be somewhere."

Another felt the situation could be influenced by age and maturity rather than someone's location or race. They commented:

"Some... but not all London sistas!! I also think it’s to do with age and maturity!"

Others said their experiences had been completely different, arguing that the environment someone spends time in can have a major influence on the interactions they have. One viewer wrote:

"I believe this also depends on the spaces you are in. I'm a girls girl & if that energy isn't reciprocated that's not a me problem, keep smiling and carrying yourself with grace and light!"

Another simply disagreed with the overall assessment, saying:

"I cannot agree with this, coz over here I get nutten but love and good vibes.."

The mixed reaction is perhaps unsurprising given the wider conversations that have surrounded stereotypes about Black women for generations. The idea of the "angry Black girl" has frequently been criticised for reducing Black women's emotions and behaviour to a harmful stereotype, particularly when confidence, assertiveness or frustration are interpreted differently depending on who is expressing them.

There has also been a growing effort to challenge assumptions that Black women are naturally aggressive, intimidating or unwelcoming. Many Black women have spoken publicly about the pressure of having their behaviour judged through those stereotypes, while others have highlighted the importance of creating supportive spaces where women feel comfortable celebrating one another rather than competing.

That is part of why conversations like Shatoya's can be complicated. Her comments were based on her own experience during one night out, rather than evidence that all Black women in London behave in the same way. While some viewers recognised what she was describing, others were keen to point out that their experiences had been much more positive.

London itself also plays a role in how people perceive social interactions. The capital is known for its fast-paced lifestyle, huge population and busy public spaces, with millions of people moving through the city every day. For people who are not accustomed to the environment, Londoners can sometimes come across as more distant or intimidating, particularly when compared with smaller towns and cities where people may have more time or inclination to interact with strangers.

The pace of life can affect seemingly small interactions too. Someone not making eye contact, smiling at a stranger or acknowledging another person may simply be focused on where they are going, rather than intentionally being rude. At the same time, people who regularly experience unfriendly behaviour can understandably interpret repeated interactions as part of a wider attitude.

For Shatoya, however, the issue appears to be less about expecting everyone to become friends and more about basic encouragement between women. Her own examples of helping another woman and complimenting people she encounters demonstrate the kind of environment she believes could make social spaces more positive.

The conversation has also highlighted how differently people can experience the same city. While one person may leave a night out feeling that London is cold or hostile, another may have an evening filled with conversations, compliments and support.

Ultimately, Shatoya's video has opened up a wider discussion about how women treat one another and whether the pressures and pace of city life can sometimes make people less approachable. Although viewers remain divided over whether her experience reflects a wider London attitude, many appear to agree on one thing, a little more kindness between strangers is rarely a bad thing.